"Why can't you get past it?" Lisa shouted. This is one attitude she has been working on but right now she's just too frustrated to care. If possible she'd scream down the roof top, if that's what will get her man to make up his mind what he wants. She's not to be ready to be anyone substitute or a rebound lady.
She fought back the tears. There's no way she'll cry over another relationship. Two months ago, she only agreed to be courted by Lewis because he said he was through with his previous relationship. She had wanted to pray but he persisted like a bee drawn to an honeycomb. But from all indications, he hasn't even started and not to mention finish with her. How can a man say; he's through with a relationship, yet wishes to be the first person to say happy birthday to his supposed Ex and goes ahead to do it and keeps talking what they did or should have done together. There's a limit to discussing about previous relationship and not like this. As hard as it seems Lisa knew she'll either fight for what isn't in existence or leave for what she can still hope to receive from a man and that's love for her and not one shared by previous women. And it has to be done now or she will have herself to blame for the outcome tomorrow..
Somehow, sometimes ladies and gentlemen tend to find themselves in this situation and its difficult to just park up and go when you truly do love this individual. Because we do know there's hardly anyone that hasn't been in one or more relationships before settling down for marriage. I've seen couples that have separated numerous times quicker than it takes a chameleon to change its colour. And they keep at it until they either realize they can't do without each other and work out their differences or park up for good. Either way; someone might be hurt and you don't want to be that someone.
Remember not everyone takes rejection with grace. Some will fight to get him/her back. So, you must know if he or she's worth fighting for before you embark on such relationship, in order not to be caught in the middle of love tussle. To know if you're to break or make it
-pay attention to your partner when he/she talks about past relationship(s). The intonation, choice of words, facial expression will tell you if there's regret or not; if you notice there's regret be strong enough to tell yourself the truth and break it. You really don't want to be anyone's "by the way side man or woman." You'll probably loss your sleep and appetite for a while but that's the only way you can give yourself a chance to be happy. Tough decision, right? However, it's not impossible. And if you don't do it today, he may realise how much he or she missed the other person and returns back to that relationship.
On the other side if there are no regrets but talks about about it with ease and as way of informing you inorder to avoid making mistakes that brought that relationship to an end, then you've got yourself a winner. So, do all you can to keep your interactions positive, fun-filled, appreciates him/her strengthens and let her/him know you do. And help work on the weaknesses. In all that you do, be supportive. Cheers!
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