Gentlemen: Rules to Keep Your Heart Safe from Heartbreak Stories.

Sometime last month, We talked about rules for single ladies to keep their heart safe and got to hear about how men too have been victims of heartbreaks which turned them into the womanizer they are today. So, the argument still remains between the ladies and gentlemen who are the worse heart  breakers? That's a millennium question for you *smiles.* Ok, ladies got their rules, click here if you missed it. Some of the rules are applicable to the gentlemen too but we will be adding others that are specifically relative to them.

1) Never fall in love until you're sure her first and last name belongs to her: They say if you want to know the real name of a lady, especially the traditional one, ask her to send you her account number and John Lyda will become Chigozie Amarachukwu, or Apotu Obakpororo. So, gentleman do a double check first, if her name belongs to her before letting your heart go.

2) Never eat her home cooked food before you sure of where the relationship should go: I'm sure your mama told you "the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach." If you get to eat home cooked food that got your stomach wanting more, I tell you, your heart will definitely follow suit. So, be sure of where you want the relationship to go or what you want before you filling your stomach up.


3) Never fall in love because she's delectable, makes you feel like a man and ache in unbearable places: Just in case you haven't heard "do not let your erection tell you the direction to go." because we all know how lost you will be when its no longer erect.  You've got to think and choose between standing firm as a man or a broken heart that may make the man become a lost sheep.

4) Never fall in love because she appreciates the goodies and the money you spend on her: Hey wake up! Everyone likes good things, so the fact you spend hard cash on a lady and she gets to purr over you like the kitten does mean you've got some soft spot. How can you be sure, she doesn't just care about what you can give? So, take it slow on the spending spree , until you know your heart is up for safe keeping. Hold it; I'm not saying you shouldn't give gifts or give a woman a good time, don't just go overboard or you'll end up buying a property instead of finding true love.

5) Never fall in love because the sex is great: As a young girl, when growing up, I listened to a heated argument between one of my elder brother and two of his friends; They were making choices between a woman that can cook with good character but not good in bed; a beautiful woman with no character and one with no beauty, character but great in bed. I was so disappointed when two went for the great in bed and one for  good character. No way, am I specifying which my brother went for lol! For clarity; practicing no vows, no sex is the easiest way to safe guard your heart. But just in case you've tasted the forbidden fruit and thinks this must be love, please its time for a rethink because great sex don't make great relationship but mutual respect, understanding,trust ....etc. Come to think of it, the moment doesn't last for long but the bond does. So, before bonding your heart with that of another person be sure to do so because you share something greater than sex.

6)  Never fall in love when all she sees is your physical look: This is the era of body building, though the africa man will still tell you its poverty that pushes people into such suffering lol! Anyway, today's generation can't help aww! or ohhhh over a well build dude with a cute face. So, be sure you aren't just for decorative purpose before giving your heart. Because what's happens when old age comes crawling or something goes wrong with the physical look and all you have left is your soul and character?

7) Never fall in love because she looks up to you: The fact that she always runs to you for help (be physical, spiritual, financial, academical etc) doesn't automatically gives you the license to think she wants more from you. Because she just may see you as an elder brother or a trusted friend. So, be sure to ask if she'll want to keep your heart safe before assuming she can keep your heart safe. Assumption can only lead to breakage when you suddenly realise you're nothing more but a dear friend.

In all of this ladies and gentlemen God is the only one who can safe guard our heart without it falling apart. Give Him His place there before thinking of giving it to anyone (Proverb 23:26). Cheers!