When a Lady Wants More from a Man...

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That awkward moment when a lady realizes she wants more from the man, she considers as a dear friend. And of course she can't blatantly go out of her way to say 'hey! I love you and .....' despite civilization ladies still haven't grown that much wings to fly. Though, I'd read on the internet sometime ago of the lady that proposed to her man. So much for the 'what a man can do, a woman can do better.' Lol! It usually becomes more frustrating when she confides in a friend who tells her "give him the green light" as if being good friends isn't much of a green light.

As a lady reading this, if you've ever been in such a position and wondering which shade of green light to give, then welcome on board. I on the other hand have heard of ladies too shy to walk that road. Even me, I've found myself in such a situation at a time. But I got no liver to try flash light. My friend actually accused me of being too proud and too much of a lady. Story of my life! Well, let's get on with flashing green light if you've got the nerves. Its quite simple and easy. Not like Julia Roberts style in 'my best friend's wedding.' Even when you need to try, bear in mind that; God's plan is and will always be the best for you Jeremiah 29:11.

Be more caring but elusive: I do understand you're good friends and you care for each other. Well, add a little of extra care (spice things up). If you haven't known before now, get to find out his favourite meal and some things he cares mostly about. You know they say "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach." make sure you get that stomach filled with niceties from your kitchen whenever he gets to visit. Woe betide you, if you're a bad cook. 'I laugh in Urhobo language.' Go all the way to get him a good gift during celebration season, doesn't matter if you don't get one from him in return immediately. Just keep doing those little things that can draw you to his heart.

But be sure to be ELUSIVE, don't be all over him or on his face at all times. That's an easy way to push him far from you and he will get to know what your game is. And I don't need to tell you, that will be quite humiliating. So, keep your distance, for instance; if you work in the same office, you don't have to always go drag him for lunch or whatever it is you can do together, wait to go home after closing hours every blessed day, visit him during weekends even after spending all week together in the office. Hey! if he doesn't have a girlfriend, it'll still be too much a move on your part. Or if you're church members doesn't automatically mean you must wait for him to walk of the premises together after service either. Be available and at the same time unavailable. Give him space to think of how nice you're to him and let him miss being treated in such special way whenever you're together. A dear friend once told me 'my wife worked to get my attention. Compliments me when my ministration is good and corrects me when I don't do well. Before I knew it, I was always wanting to get her opinion' and the rest today is; a happy married life.

Calls and other issue: This is a trick because I don't think any lady will want to keep calling a man that won't call her back after a while. But then, you've being in the friend Zone meaning that aspect should have been established. So, you make sure you don't loose communication. And again don't go over board in doing so. If he hasn't been heard from for a while, call him and ask about his welfare. When you call, let him talk. Don't go sabotaging the conversation by being a talkative because of uneasiness or whatever the case may be. Afterall, you did call to hear from him and to be sure he hasn't forgotten about you. Feed his ego by letting him talk about what is going on. When you have something intelligent to add, then do and not because you feel like saying something. When he needs help and it is within your power to render it, do but don't automatically think that will change brotherly or friendly love to sensual love or as what you wish to call it.
Laugh at his jokes and not his attempt at one Lol!, compliment him and be nice to tell him too when he isn't properly dressed. And ask why? Basically, don't pretend to be what you are not.

I know, it can be itching when you're trying so hard to flash the light and yet he isn't getting the gist but don't let it affect your temper or mood. Because you may become snappy and unnecessarily angered when you shouldn't. In all of your moves, always remember you're a lady. Be polite and try harder not to over flog issues when he offends you and be able to say I'm sorry when you offend him. Haba, I've talked, actually written too much, so I'll rest my fingers here and wish you best of God's favour if you choose to try. And if you're a friend probably reading this article, don't come to my house to ask me who the brother was or else its fried chicken I'll use to stone you out *winks*.
Have a fruit bearing day and don't forget "life is worth living and people worth loving. Cheers!"