Open up: Whatever secrets he needs to know, tell him/her. Have you got a child? Let your partner know instead of finding out from some other person. Yes! Don't leave anything out, even the tiniest detail because what you consider inconsequential might just be what he makes a big deal out of. If possible tell him/her of the time you broke that kid's pencil in primary school or how you use to steal sugar and hide it under your pillow as a child.
Fast and pray: On your knees, give God the reel of your relationship. Do it individually and together in the day time. Prayerfully built what you've got on the solid rock, that can stand the test of time. Even when the storms of life hit, it stays firm/unshakable.
Desist from sex: I can't forget the day I interacted with a newly wed and got the shock of my life. She was a corp member serving in my office and got wedded in that duration. Upon resumption she was glowing from head to toe. Actually, it was the toes that got my attention when she lifted her legs to show something to me. I remember telling her how full and beautiful they are and how much the husband will delight in hmmm... you know what I mean? *winks*" and she replied "forget that thing, wetin we don do tire. Even our wedding night, every park face." Oops! I wonder how many couples can attest to that response. Quite a number I believe if the truth be told. Cutting out sex should give you something to look forward to on your wedding night. The excitement like a child holding unto a candy that can be unwrapped on a particular time should keep you two on your feet. But then team #NoVowsNoSex still remains the biblical standard.
Make plans: Now, I don't mean making plans for the wedding ceremony(the kind of clothes, bags of rice to be cooked, numbers of cow, who to invite...etc), but plan for your marriage(number of children, the kind of home you intend to built and how, having joint accounts,....etc.). The ceremony it is but for a day, it doesn't matter if there is enough drinks to go round, if the musicians play nice music. What matters is, if you exchanged vows of togetherness and if the answer is yes; then you've got yourself a life time contract.
Share: Seeing yourselves as one should be from the moment you agreed to be married. Share the moments of laughter, confusion, break through and what the world throws at you standing firmly on God's word. Even if it means conniving to make fun of a friend, share.
Go out on dates: I hear this becomes difficult to do after the 'I do,' especially when the babies start coming. So, spend some outdoors time together, that will help to know how much you'd get to enjoy the indoor time when the time comes.
Learn: Read books on marriage, talk to Godly couples and share all your ideas. Remember 'a soldier don't wait until he gets to the war front before learning how to fight.'
Study: Ephesians 5:31-32 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Malachi 2:14-15 But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one Godseeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.
Most importantly, all you need is God. Cheers!
Wooooooow!!!! I love this. I find it quite helpful
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