Ladies: Enough with the "he broke my heart," let's get the twist straightened out.

"Zee its not about you, its me. I just think we should go our separate ways for now. "Tobi her boyfriend of 14months had told her. "That's so corny! You could have at least be decent enough to break up with me with an original break up line "Zaniab said as she stormed out angrily.
She walked slowly down the road saying to her self "I will not cry! I will not cry! He doesn't deserve it! I wont .....she hadn't finished chanting her mantra when the water works from her eyes came pouring down like July rain.

Ladies! How often have we walked down this road and the vicious cycle called "falling in love and finding the right one?" How often have we cried out our mascaras saying to ourselves that this would never repeat itself again?" A wise man once said "The answers are everywhere, the thing is that we are asking the wrong questions. "The question every lady should ask themselves is "should I be the one doing the 'loving' is it my responsibility to love?" This may shock a lot of us starry eyes and love prone ladies but the answer is a big upper case "NO." Its not our duty.

Naturally, ladies are givers, we love to give even when we get nothing in return. It's probably the mother's instincts. So when we love, we give out a piece of our heart to the people we are in love with, hence we find it hard to move on when a relationship crumbles. The men on the other hand have the "shock absorber" They can date you for one millennium and not have their heart in it. That makes it quite easy for them to pack up and leave when they get tired. Ladies except your heart is the national cake and you don't mind sharing it to every Chinedu, Bayo and Bello that comes your way, now is the right time to strategize on how to keep your heart for the man that thoroughly deserves your love.

The situation some ladies found themselves today is when a primary 3 pupils tries to write a primary 6 assignment because the questions look familiar. God spelt out each sex assignment clearly in Ephesians 5:25; Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; The man loves because he is the one with the responsibility to get and protect what he loves. Your part is to be appreciative if the love a man offers is appealing. Because no matter how much you love a man, until he comes to you, you can't go to him to offer that love. Of course the subtle means may work but won't sustain it hence, the heartbreaks. Thanks to some marriage counsellors who tell young ladies today to; love who they marry. God has assigned such a simple task to us yet we've chosen the difficult one that's gradually crushing our souls. Ladies let the men carry out their assignment while we delight in reading the answers. Cheers!