You are Single, not a String Puppet.

Ejiro was known by many as the most eligible bachelor in town, tall, handsome and savvy. So you can imagine it was a pleasant surprise when he started taking interest in Gina. She enjoyed every bit of the attention, the time spent together, the envious look on other ladies faces, he sure did know how to please a lady but he confused her because he never did officially ask her out and ladies were always hanging around him. He always reassured her that they were all just friends and admirers but he never reassured her of where she stood in his life. She accepted it, after all a piece of him was better than none of him."He would come around" She always told herself. So you can imagine the shock on her face when she found out he was getting married to a lady he met 6months ago.

There are some single ladies and gentlemen who did find themselves in such situations of being string along like a puppet until their value is loss on the stringer (pidgin English; see finish). One will wonder why anyone will be in a relationship without giving that relationship a name/no proper definition or direction. All they have is 'the assumption that we are dating because we spend so much time together.' Assumption is nothing but a mirage and the longer one stays there, the less chances of finding or being found by a true mate. If you're in the friend zone, let the boundaries be drawn so that prospective admirers can find their way to you as a single lady. And as a gentleman; so that you can go find your way to a prospective mate. Sometimes, one isn't conscious of this activity, until you start hearing people making snide of referring to you two as couple. So ladies and gentleman when that happens, there's need to re-evaluate your position with each other and consciously make an effort to spend lesser time together if you truly mean well for each other.

I understand the need of finding or wanting to be found but have in mind, God is a perfecter of every good thing. His plan for you is of good. And having faith instead of being desperate in pushing yourself on someone is just you devaluing who God has made you to be. Remember; 
- Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them and Isaiah 34:16 Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded, and his spirit it hath gathered them. 
- God created them male and female and He always honours His word over His name (Psalm 138:21; I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name). Taking a stand with God can only bring an outstanding life, wait, God is still the greatest beautifier of life. Cheers!