Where do you Fit in his Plans?

A man and a lady have been in a relationship which means dating as the 'world' refers to it or courtship as  'God's Word' refers to it, for years with no exchange of vows, although I prefer the 'word' ways which will entail biblical principle of #novowsnosex. Hey! Don't run off yet, that's not what this post is about, thank you if you'd continue reading. So, in that relationship, there has been moments of pain and gain; sorrow and blessings; break up and make up and together you're weathering through the storm yet the man only establishes himself.


Yes! He is establishing himself because no matter what you do together, whether dating/courting, cohabiting/credit marriage is all to the benefit of the man and your own shame. Oops! The society doesn't actually view it that way because of what we call in pidgin English "open eye" well, I'd say you go with "shine your eye" lady. Because it is possible for your eyes to be opened and yet not see nothing. For clarity sake: until you both can achieve that miraculous arithmetic of 1+1=1, you are as a lady adding value to the man's life. Now, I'm not talking about a man you're believing God for a job/place with but that man who has a roof over his head, a job(a good one) and can afford life's daily needs and you stayed by/with all through thin. And now it is thick, yet the question isn't coming, yet, you act as couple on the assumption that's where the relationship is heading to. Hey wake up now or by the time you do, he'd be walking down the aisle with some other lady.

        No Disguise proposal from you as a lady
Of course I'm not saying you should propose to him in disguise by;
- getting pregnant and saying 'honey I'm pregnant.'
- asking out rightly "where do I fit in your plans?" Or
- where is this relationship heading to?......
Because he will tell you what he knows you want to hear. Haven't you heard "words are cheap." And "actions speak louder than words." Be cognizant with;
- His actions/conversations without tension,
- Aspiration, the height he wishes to attain
- Things he wishes to possess
- What he spends his money on and
The duration it will take should tell you were you fit in his plan . Unless you choose to ignore the signs. Funny enough, he may not be able to tell you, so he choose to show you, so wake up from your slumber/dreams and apply wisdom in asking God to bring your way the right man in reality. The truth is; the good thing a man needs to find is a wife and becoming a husband and father. Be strong enough to tell yourself the truth and  with time the ache will fade away.

Have a fruit bearing day and don't forget "life is worth living and people worth loving." Cheers!