The Damascus Journey - A Change of Course.

Every journey a man embarks on, on earth is usually with intent and purpose. The purposes in most cases are of two course. Positive or negative. Whichever way, there's a mission to accomplish. Along the journey, there might be unplanned changes that can bright forth a positive or negative unknown outcome. In essence one's intention(s) can/may or will change depending on what the man encounters on his journey.

The Dilemma of Being Single at 30years and Above - The Gentleman and His Strings of Ladies.

Tuesday it is, so, lets roll with the dilemma of being single at 30 years and above. The view is from the gentleman side. When above 30 and no wedding invitation is forth coming, different people tends to decide for you.

In the Wake of Day - How Will Our Votes Count?

In the wake of day
The tension continues to build
The fear heightened
The argument increases
The confusion expands
The winner of the race uncertain
And we wish we could just fast forward the readings of the results.
#Nigeriadecides and patients became our virtue.

How do Men Cope with the Prevalence of Sexual Temptations?

          
Over the years, women have got this common complain. Our men flirts, cheats and no matter how beautiful you are, he still takes a step outside. And we wondering if it should be an acceptable doctrine. Hmmm! Its

Hey Lady: Five Reasons You Should Get Over That Break Up.

Oh! The happily ever after life you dreamed to have with him came crashing down before you could even wake up from it. And you just can't stop thinking what you did wrong that drove him away or what you could have done right to keep him. Well, he's gone so you need to let him out of your life in order to:

Strive Through The Strife.

In the desert, I've been taught in geography class, its difficult for plants to grow. Yet, the cactus plant finds a way to survive by growing tap roots, that goes deeper than that of ordinary plant. So, a man should be in the midst of difficulties. How many times have you being told

Lol! Reasons Slim/Skinny Single Ladies at 30 Need to Add Some Weight.

The heat about the election results is on the increase and every one is helping to fan the flame. Well, here's something to cool down the temper. Reasons for skinny single ladies at 30years and above to add some weight. Oshee!

Sunday Letter of Thanksgiving to God, On Behalf of Humans - Praise.

Dear God,

We can't just thank you enough for your love you keep showering upon us. You created us for your glory and honour. And today; some of us have publicly acknowledged that but privately despise you for the little things

ROTFL.... Election Hilarious Incidents.

While the false alarm about the winners keeps coming, let us review some of the election unpleasant but hilaroius  incidents. Hehehee!

Five Categories of Voters in Today's Election.

Ehen! Finally federal election has come and gone. *sighs* after all the drama I noticed different categories of voters in my polling unit at the village. Yes! I

Friday.com Political Question: What's Your Take - Is it Compulsory for Man & Wife to Vote for the Same Candidate?

Hehehehe! The heat is on the increase and I can't help but ask. What happens if husband and wife aren't taking side with the same party? Is it

Am I Wrong to let Him Know the Depth of my Love for Him?

Choi! Some people are ready to add another ministerial engagement to this blog. A darling friend has got this question for you. Just woke up to it. hehehe!

Wrong Relationship Alert - I Need Some Drama in my Relationship.

Hmmm, pondering in thought. I wasn't expecting to handle this kind of issue on TPJ this soon. But here we are, with this request sent below.

Hi; Thanks for the wrong relationship alert. I'm not going to cut corners because this is driving me crazy.

Oops! I'd Rather Vote For Myself.

Its election week and everyone is asking everyone who they'll vote for. Well, I'd rather vote for me Oops! I'm not running for any position and why? That's the question some individual has got to answer Nigerians. With the kind of dream they have for the country, their level of intelligence, honest attitude

Don't Be Weighed Down By The Weight.

In life you can't escape stress, its just like the violin ability to produce music is based on the stress put on the strings. And as you move from one phase of life to another, the strings are more tightly pulled and you're expected to snap or buckle under it. But the strength of your will power will determine your ability to pull yourself together. You should be careful into thinking

The Dilemma of Being Single at 30 years and Above.

Welcome to TPJ weekly series of the dilemma of singles at 30years and above. Hope the week started on a good footing? And do have in mind your attitude towards life issue will determine the altitude you'll attain.

Today's dilemma:

Shocking! A 14years Old Boy Violent Attitude Towards a 13years Old Girl.

I am worried about the kind of upbringing some children are receiving from their parents. Especially, after watching a 14years old boy loosened his belt from his waist and ready to wipe mercilessly a girl of 13 because she abused him. And ranting "I have your

Activation of Sugar Rush Mood.

Monday morning, everyone is in a rush to get everything done and to get to their various destination. Of course, for the mothers, it is exceptionally tedious. They have the responsibility of running the home and school errands. There was a funny incident that occurred sometime ago in my office.

Wish Away Monday 2.

Ohhhh! I wish the weekend could yet continue. I need 3 more hours to sleep. Could someone grant me that wish? I know there are more people thinking the same thought as I am. And weighing the possibility of it. Yeah! Extra hour(s) of sleep means going

Sleep Laden Lashes

I was searching through the internet and found this poem. Reading through it, I realized we do feel this way about life sometimes. Especially, when faced with unpleasant situations. So, I thought to share.

Grammar Bombing 2.

Goodness! I don't understand all the grammar I heard this weekend. Infact, I need to visit the village more often. If not for anything but to grammar bomb. My own sef, still join the matter.
Grammar bombing as follows hahaha.

We're Sorry - The Grammar Bombing Conversation.

We at the TPJ house wish to apologize for the late updates in the past two days. We are presently in the village for an occasion and there's poor network reception, probably there may be no post till tomorrow. We're sorry to keep you waiting.
Frankly, we won't be here, if you aren't reading, commenting, sharing or following us - and for that we will be ever grateful. And you really don't want to know the struggle and what I had to do to get this post up Lol!

Friday.com! Hilarious Exposure.

In the world of work or school, today is the best for most people. They can barely wait for the day to end.
There's an extra gaiety to step, a brighter smile and easiness in attitude because its weekend. Yeah! Thank God its Friday.

Lies Ladies Tell Themselves (Mostly Africans)

The worst person that could lie to you is "YOU." Many times some ladies cover up their pains with lies and pretense. This has made some men to take their ladies feelings (emotions) for granted. Whatever or however you feel, you've got to tell yourself the truth even if you can't tell him. That way you'll have a clear picture of your position in his life and that will help keep your sanity.

Snap Out of it Too! People will always have something to say about someone or thing.

It is terribly hurtful and your heart is squeezed tightly with pain. You wish you hadn't shared your deepest secret with someone you considered a friend. Now the world is talking, the birds singing and even the breeze whispering about it. Everyone you know is giving you that nasty look of worthlessness.

Five Daily Needs of a Man From His Lady.

I have heard, its quite easy to please men than women. How true that is, I'm yet to ascertain. Because humans generally are difficult to please, even the little babies aren't left out Lol. Well, let's leave that for another day and quickly

The Heat of the Beat.

Music they say is "food for the soul" and I agree with no doubt. The best part of every musical beat is the one you get to hear every second, pounding silently and sometimes loudly when strained. That's the "heart beat," reacting to your actions or activities. Another lovely beat is that of the birds

The Sting of Being Light Skinned

I wrote this article last month but somehow I haven't gotten around to posting it on TPJ. I guess it was waiting for this lady's message above. It is very easy for people to assume you bleached or you are bleaching if you're light skinned. Most light skinned individuals are having to deal with this each day

The Dilemma of Being Single at 30 Years and Above.

In all of our previous weeks series on the dilemma of being single at 30 years and above, we've looked at this issue from both the ladies and gentlemen angle. Today: I'd like to restrict it to the ladies only. It's a special post. We will focus on those special thoughts some single ladies have or likely

Life's Journey 2: Walking Your Part in Life's Pathway.

Hey! I need to burst your bubbles this monday morning, so you can build waves. Oh! You've got it foaming but don't know how to get your bubbles up; let's blow you up. And of course, you've got all it takes to make the world a better place, yeah, your big dream balance on a balancing scale. You want to build waves but you feel you haven't got the strength to hold forth.

Where is God in This?

You've been ALL you think He wants you to be, done all His Word instructs you to do, and as much as even the "terrible ones" ascertain your "goodness", they still seem to have it better than you: a seemingly working relationship, a man/woman that actually cares, promises getting kept - and you wonder, "Where is G..." **be still my soul**

The Blind Between Love & Sex

Love supposedly is the bedrock of every relationship, the foundation and keeper. With it in place, every relationship should and can withhold the test of time. Love can be expressed with words and through actions. The medium of expression between couples has usually being judged by the respect, trust each accord to each other and of course, through the intercourse *winks* I wasn't about to leave that out. Love, I've grown to know, is beautiful and the basis in which sacrifices and compromise has been made - even the sacrifices of life. Don't even think of doubting because I've read stories of people committing suicide because the woman/man they care about dumped them. Sometimes they end up even committing murder and suicide.

Between the Girl Who Wants You and the Girl Who Wants Your Money.

Friday.com Special
Last month, it was about the gentlemen conversation. Today, let's examine the conversation that will occur between the girl who truly wants a man and the one that just care about his money.

Dish it in the Ditch.

Have you ever had a reason to say " I've never been so embarrassed in my entire life." And that moment you wish the ground could open up and swallow you. If yes, then welcome to the club of those that has experienced their life time embarrassment. That means you aren't the only one to have been in such a position. And sorry, the ground won't be opening until your death at a good ripe age by God's grace (Amen). Besides, as humans, I love our belief that what goes around comes around. Someday; somehow; whoever embarrassed you will be put in such situation or worse than yours by someone else or even by him/herself. And you'll get to also be the source of someone else's embarrassment.

Stalk or Walk Your Dream.

As a growing child you had a dream or dreams of who and what you'd like to become when you grow up. The years brought forth refining changes to those dreams but "YOU" kept dreaming. Yes! Your dreams do/can change but you never stopped dreaming. In as much as its beautiful to live in the dream world, you've got to wake up to live the reality of your dream(s).
Types Of Dreamers

The Dilemma of Being Single at 30 Years and Above.

Life as a single at 30 is one phase many don't appreciate getting to or crossing over. Some Ladies with the sentiment of not finding Mr Right because desperation crops in, blinding objective decisions. A colleague of mine once said "getting married after 30 is only possible, if you crossed 30 being in a relationship with the man." Even that, will take some prayer and fasting lol! Choi! What about the people getting married way after 30 and building an awesome home because of years of maturity and patient learning in the process of waiting and hoping. I wondered if she hadn't seen any?

Monday Blind Opener.

Monday blind opener: the ray can still get in. If not the sunshine, then, the moon glow. Keep your faith up, your eyes focused and step forward. You just need to move one step after another with directives towards a direction (proverb 3:6)

No one will understand the passion or force driving your vision like you do. So don’t be offended when they refuse to go the extra mile with/for you, even when you expect them to. Keep pressing! Keep believing!! Someday they’ll run up to catch up with you, just to tell you how proud they are of you. The vision-driven road is usually a tough one. Cheers!

Before you die, live!

There are three things that can lead to untimely death; satan the devil, human imperfection and unforeseen occurrences/circumstances. In essence no one can truly boast about what tomorrow may bring. And there are two ways to live before you die.

Sunday Sound Words.

- Today's work will define your tomorrow's worth.

- Assumption breeds misunderstanding. Ask questions! Do not assume to know the answers to questions you haven't asked.

- Sometimes we wish for stars, unaware we are stars and there are people wishing for us. Discover the you in you and celebrate

- Your life won't/can't please everyone, neither will your death displease everyone. Live and be happy for you!

- A little bit of me and a little bit of you is what makes a WHOLE lot of us. Who you are and what defines you is not who I am and definitely may not be what defines me. Our uniqueness is what add colours to life.

- Let your past be your teacher and don't forget, your past is history; your present a gift and your tomorrow a mystery

- Sometimes right; sometimes wrong are the lessons of life being taught. Don't despise you, just keep learning and living. You will/can be better.

Relationship
- Don't love anyone to the point of choking them. Give them space to breath and live. They know you care without being possessive and selfish

- You mean the world to me, he/she says to you. Do remember that includes the wild forest zone. So, ask which part? The deep blue sea or the mangrove swamp forest?

- I can show you the world, doesn't mean he/she loves you. Wait until you become his/her world. Cheers!

What Has Sex Become in Today's World?

Sex is now a tool/weapon between lovers and even strangers in getting whatever they can from one another (money, emotional satisfaction, information etc). The comfort needed during sex is also growing thin because male or female are ready to do it without the emotional attachment (just a means to an end). It is expected when two people profess to love each other, automatically that should be expressed in sexual intercourse. If you don't, it means your love isn't so true after all (that is now becoming an acceptable common knowledge). As a result of this some people succumb to it, just to keep their relationship.

The way a man/woman choose to have sex with you, goes a long way in telling you how valuable you and sex are to them. Does he/she seek out the softness of a foam for your comfort or anything will be just fine? Let's examine some sexual process/method and you're free to agree or disagree with me or within you. But please be sincerely sincere when at it.
- Rush in and Rush out: There's no preamble with this process. The man/woman just want to grab that which is made available/what he or she is paying for as fast as possible and be on his/her way. This they can do anywhere so long some privacy is offered. The pleasure is only felt at the end of the process.
- Cover Some Meters: Want to grab but while at it, still desires to make it pleasurable. Its usually between acquaintance, who find themselves in a compromising sexual position (attracted to each other but no relationship). As much as possible, they'd take time to create some memories that, they won't be in a rush to forget. Even though they need to rush the process before they'd get caught. And some means of softness for their comfort is seeked out. Some times, this process still fit in between deceitful folks.
- Peel off the Layers: Both lovers take their time to experience each other move/touch. Its more of a worship trance. Comfort is not only felt in the foam but in each other arms.

Basically, we must understand that from time to time, any of the three process can be carried out amongst lovers, but the frequency of a particular process, should tell you where exactly you belong in his/her life. Or how valuable you are to him/her. Does he seek to pleasure you? Does he/she seek your comfort? Is he/she ready to hang on until you both find satisfaction? What you have together is it just about the sex? Are questions that need to be answered.

In all of this, what sex is or will be amongst spouse is determined by how frequent they seek for each other comfort. And the scripture is still what is needed to guide us right in living a sexually fulfilling life (got you! It still comes back to God). And not be part of those using sex as a weapon. Also, not to be devalued by anyone through sex. Anyway, married couples are the ones at liberty *winks* (sorry to burst your bubbles) Proverb 5:17-19. Sex is/will always be a means of worship between couples, if only, its given the right value. Especially by you, when you get there or that's already there. God still believes in us. Cheers!

Friday.com - Questionable Questions Ladies Ask.

Yeah it's Friday.com! All through the month of February, we had a good time writing about questionable questions gentlemen ask on first dates. This month, my beam is focusing on the ladies. So let's take a dive and see what we can find. And for every wrong question, I will suggest the right question.

Snap Out of It - What if You've had Sex with More Men/Ladies Than You Hate to Admit?

It's Thursday again in TPJ's House. So, what have we got to snap out of?

There's one thing in life that can easily eat a man up, even though they say, its no big deal. And that's GUILT. Yeah! You wish you could turn back the hands of time. Then, you'd have kept those legs closed (Female folks) no matter how tinglish it felt. Or you would have parked "those" hmmm! (Please male folks pardon my modesty) tightly, no matter how hard it felt before the "I do ceremony". But hey! You can not. Especially in this present generation where the fastest runner in the race of use or get used is accused of not being fast enough. The outstanding is astounded by what the next neighbour is capable of. You simply beat or get beaten.

The Dilemma of Being Single at 30years and Above

Last week, I shared a facebook post on our weekly series the dilemma of being single at 30years and above. It's usually a tiresome situation when majority of people around you suddenly becomes Auto- detectives and psychologist without training or degree. Snooping and asking questions, they have no right to ask if you'd been married. And giving advice/guidelines they're in no position to give if you'd been married. This is like being put on a pressure cooker with no one to regulate the heat but you.

Hilarious! Old Vs New Version of Lovers Name Calling

Old Version - My Dear
New Version - Dearie
Old Version - Sweetheart
New Version - Sweety
Old Version - Honey
New Version - Hun
Old Version - Darling

Blend Through The Bend

Every road ever constructed has got bends. That doesn't mean vehicles need  to stop and be pushed at every bend, although speed reduction is necessary in order not to slip of the road. After every bend, the road straightens out again and the journey continues until destination is reached.

Hilarious!!! Plants Generated Name Calling Amongst Lovers.

In the days of our parents, it was MD(My dear) sweetheart, honey etc. Today's generation has practically abused these endearing names. Everyone is gradually becoming everyone's sweetheart, that many lovers are looking for something special and different to qualify their relationship. Let's roll with some hehehe!

- Cherry Cocoa
- Cocoa Butter
- Sugar Poripori
- Apple shade
- Vanilla Virus

Situation VS Relationship: What Have You Got?

Its the beginning of another month; you need to examine exactly what you've got together and find means to be better or to be the best.

Situation - Stay days without communication
Relationship - Communicates daily or within days
 Situation - Love is expressed when things are rosy
Relationship - Love is expressed at all time
Situation - Feels trapped and frustrated
Relationship - Feels loved and appreciated