Snap Out of It : Poverty Mind Condition

This is what we do in TPJ house every Thursday - examine that which grieves your heart and help you find a reasonable means to snap out of it.
Yes! You got into this year 2015, with renewed hope and excitement to pick up the bits and pieces of your attempt to make something out of life. Especially in the society of today, where jobs have become a gold mine or man know man to find one. Now, two months into the year but it feels like 5 decade of your existence on planet earth because  all hope is gone, alongside your hard saved money. Everything crashed, even before it started just like your previous attempts in the world of "HUSTLE" (permit me to use that word.)

The I-LOVE-YOU & I-LOVE-YOU-NOT Relationships

I Love You - He/she matches words with actions
I Love You Not - Tells you one thing and does something else. Mismatch words with actions.
I Love You - Talks in future tense.
I Love You Not - Talks in present tense
I Love You - Show genuine interest in you, your activities (studies or jobs) and all that surrounds you.
I Love You Not - Doesn't show interest, unless you seek for his/her opinion.
I Love You - Wants to be around you, spend as much time he/she could afford with you.
I Love You Not - Only remembers you when he/she needs something from you. Spilling it out; sex, money, or they need you to run an errand for them. Lol!
I Love You - Ever ready to assist you when the need arises.
I Love You Not - He/she is ever ready to exhaust all the excuses on earth, so long they stay out of your business.

Dear gentleman and lady, the one billion naira question is "which of these are you exhibiting towards your present partner?" Genuinely, answer yourself and decide to work out your relationship or save him/her from tomorrow's heartbreak by letting him/her go before it gets too complicated. Yeah! I'm talking about singles that are in relationship for now. Hehehehe! Cheers!!!

CHIC: The Dude and His Three Ladies

In the days of smart phones and social network, everyone in a relationship believes he/she is the man chic/dude when on profile displayed pictures and regular upload hehehe! And this guy got wind of how the game can be played smartly, I must hand it down to him, better still, hands up for him Lol!

He has three ladies in his life who are constantly his display pictures and uploads that includes them together with friends. Each one is hardly off his display picture. Its either her picture alone or picmix of them together (love in Tokyo.) Now, you're wondering how he managed that without being caught. Well, he acted smartly like the phones he's using. Hahaah. Let's take it step by step;
- He got himself three smart  phones with different sims and three facebook accounts.
 - One for each lady, and only uses that phone with his regular nokia phone which contains his main/real line whenever he's with each of them.
All three ladies are oblivion to any  existing phones. Individually, they thought they're his main chic being on constant display.

It got to a stage when one of the lady decided to turn down a proposal because of this dude. And his friend felt sorry for the girl because the man after her happens to be a good man. Not wanting this girl to miss this opportunity because of his two timing or three timing friend, he opened up and told her everything. Of course she was shocked and didn't know if she should believe when the man in question walked in on them. Being he wasn't expecting to find her in his friend's place, he didn't carry the phone with her details. Playing the sweet girlfriend she took the phone and saw another girl as the screen saver. And that brought the whole relationship to an abrupt end.

Well, old proverb " you never know the value of a thing, until you loses it." This turned out to be our smart guy situation. The lady in question happened to be his friend's favourite and best amongst his ladies. All pleadings fell on deaf ears and our lady did accept the man's proposal and today; happily married with a son. As for our dude he's still wondering how his smartness and games made him loose a good woman. Till the next CHIC, always learn to be sincere in your relationship. Cheers!

The Dilemma of Being Single at 30 Years and Above III

Today I wish to just share a Facebook post by Ravishing Ichabod Crane on this dilemma. LOL:
'To God who made me, I'm hanging up on the next family member or childhood neighbour that says "Sheye, go and marry." This is like the 90th time this February alone.... Haba! Marriage na by force sef? People still live normal lives without a spouse you know. When my time comes, my time don come be that. Please let's leave that to my destiny. Lol! I'm enjoying my single life and making the best use of my time.'

CHIC Day III

It's another pleasurable CHIC day (Comic Heart Issues Compilation). If you're reading this, I must say thank you for being part of the TPJ's Team. And do return again to read  how smart phone can put smart guys into trouble.

CHIC - The Dude and His Three Ladies
Singles - The Dilemma of Being Single at 30 years and above. (You'll get to read a post from a friend).
Have a fulfilling day. Cheers!

Monday Sugar Rush

Oh yeah! I know its that day of the week, you wish you could put on permanent postponement. But its inevitably here again. And as you would loved the weekend to continue hahaha, you've got to get moving to better the "hustle." Some with excitement, anxiety, and probably indifferent.

War Crazy Strategy

In every phase of life, there are battles/challenges we face. The world believe you win some and lose some. But hey! God says we can win all. If you doubt try asking our fathers; king Jehoshaphat or David. You don't need an army/man to defeat your giants(challenges) just a well-aimed scripture backed up with a shout of praise. And It is not something you engage in when you feel like. The bible says we're to offer sacrifices of praise to God'(Hebrew 13:15; Psalm 22:3)). The more it costs, the more it pays off!

So get up, lace up your shoes by preparing your heart to praise God. Play an instrument, if you know how. Of course you do! There's always something to play; the clapping of your hands, the tapping of your feet and the lifting up of your voice in songs,moving your body as you dance unto God and He will defeat whatever is waging war against you.  Cheers!

Wrong Relationship Alert

You know your present relationship isn't it when:
1) You start missing your ex
2) You find it difficult to tell him/her things that hurts you
3) You feel distant, even when spending time together
4) Every time, he/shex talks more about him/herself and hardly pays
attention when you want to contribute

Between The Guy Who Wants You & The Guy Who Wants Your Body

 All the Ladies this is about you-  Enjoy the conversation Between the Guy Who Wants You for you and the One Who Wants Your Body.

Snap Out Of It 2

You can find Snap Out of It 1 here; but today, we're snapping out of
something else:

"How could I?" Friend, if you're in a tight corner you put yourself
in, like an unholy affair that's tearing your family apart; insulting
and pouring water on her, only to discover she's the cute kid sister
he told you about (yikes!); or messing up a potentially awesome
business relationship by putting money first, well let me be the
second person to tell you (if you've been sincere enough to tell
yourself) that you messed up BIGTIME! Yes I said it.

The Singles World II

In a previous post, we took a look at the singles world and its
vulnerability. Today, let's examine that same vulnerability in a
metaphoric way. The single's world can/should be likened to a house
with a leaking roof. Everything (the heat, water and dust) gets into
it. And if the leakage isn't mended in time, it may lead to the house
crumbling. People may think the only way to mend this, in the singles
world is through marriage, forgetting that the world of marriage has

The Conversation: Bass VS Piano

Did you see Cat VS Dog from last week?
I can only imagine the conversation that may go on between a piano and a bass guitar right there on stage in a concert hall filled to capacity (forgive my imaginative limits; music is a language I love)
Bass: Look at you Piano…looking all so bright and shiny on the center stage
Piano: I know, right? Look at the spotlights…the scenery…the props…the crowd…all so amazing!
Bass: With this fly look of yours, coupled with your sensual notes, I'll bet no one will even notice me here all through the concert…(shaking head) but we're buddies though, and I'm happy for you.

The Dilemma of Being Single at 30 Years and Above (Episode 2)

Let's take the exclamation mark (!) from where we stopped last week. The dreaded age 30 no lady wants to get to still single if they've got anything to do about it. For the men, it’s not the right time to settle down, until it gets above that. But before that happens, there might be feelings that can be traumatic, if not properly handled.

CHIC Day: Technical Knockout

They met as young undergraduates. He is from the small town of Agbor in Delta State and she is from the big city of Lagos. From the very first day, they bonded and their relationship became the envy of others. Through university and youth service days, they were there for each other.

CHIC Day II

Here’s another Tuesdays for all the CHIC. And to know more about CHIC, read here. Hmmm! But, let's just roll with one Comic Heart Issues Compilation (acronym: CHIC). Got ya! It wasn't what you had in mind. LOL!

Post-Valentine Rendezvous

Post-Valentine Rendezvous with the Winners Family, Sapele.
Tagged: Love&Sex/Anointing For Attraction

(1) Pastor (Prof) Yomi Wills expounding on God's Word in the meeting
(2) Pastor Jakes and Pastor Prof Yomi Wills 
(3) Part of the congregation being blessed by God's Word

It was an adorable time in God's presence. Pastor Prof Yomi Wills gave a spiritual indepth of the true essence of love and loving. The peak was when he made us to understand that you don't love a man/woman because of the physical qualities possessed by him/her, because someday those qualities may fade away. What happens to love when that happens will become a trillion naira question. And if you truly love God, you'd avoid sin of premarital sex and wait for the wedding night to begin sexual exploit. Chastity all the way! *winks* Cheers!

Valentine turned Violent Time

My Valentine’s Day was really eventful; I learnt you don't need to buy Chinese film before you enjoy a good kung fu fight or karate, or wait for Mohammed Ali’s fight with Mike Tyson to enjoy good boxing match. LOL!  I didn't want to give an explicit description, until a friend made me understand that the true meaning of this write up may be lost without the full story  and I changed my mind because people have to let Valentine's day be for love and not lies or violence.

The true essence of Valentine is fading, the beauty losing glow, and the concept channeled wrongly. Why? I'll present to you two situations:

Church VS Club/Hotel Valentine Celebration

Hmmm! I really need to sigh before I give this comparism, because of the mixed feeling about my experience today. Should I laugh or be sober I really don't know which one to do (I wish you can see my confused face).One of the things we talk about here are real experiences. So, here are the valentine experiences from both places.

Some “Interesting” Valentine Messages

- Happy valentine my dearie. You're special to me. The love I have for you is not in this planet. Like a grinding stone I'll grind anything that disturb our love.

- My valentine, I belong to you! And I'll stay the rest of life showing you the earth is as fine as heaven, as we planet from place to place.

- My valentine! You are beautiful like the sun that touches the rivers ground. Because of your love, my heart will drum without stick

 Lol! Please if you like, send one to your love. You can thank me later for it. Cheers!

Happy Valentine's Day!

From the TPJ house, Happy Valentine's! May love and loving people never be scarce in your life. Love in its explicit beauty will shine and eradicate all ills from the world we live in today. No matter how terrible it may feel now, let love keep propelling us in loving directions, as we lend a helping hand to lift each other up when down, fighting together to win all wars..... Again, Happy Valentine's. Enjoy the day. Cheers.

Questionable Questions II

Yeah! The focus is still on the gentlemen. Ladies, have a good laugh now because next month, the ball will be played in your court.
The truth is, the question-and-answer strategy is the easiest way to make a woman lose interest in a man. Let's roll with some of such questions:
1) Do you like sex?
2) How many men have you slept with?
3) What's the most sensitive part of your body?
4) Have you ever aborted?
5) Why did your previous relationship break up?
What do you call this course of question-and-answer? History 809? If you ask all these questions on a first date, what about the subsequent ones? Well, as a lady, I'd act like I have a call to answer, and walk away. Well if you found yourself in there, what would you do?