First to the Singles: Dear single lady or gentleman,
You have heard it before! Iron sharpens iron. If you don't see a potential spouse as able to sharpen you in all areas of life, you may need to rethink that relationship. They should be challenging you to be better and grow stronger spiritually, emotionally, and otherwise. And you also should be doing the same for them. They should be drawing strengths out of you that you didn't even know existed; and you should be doing the same for them. Any relationship leading to marriage should make you better, not leave you the same or make you worse😳😳 Reevaluate that relationship before you proceed into marriage!
Don't dread marriage - it is for your good, not for your downfall. Yes
it's true that many couples across the world may have missed it and may
have made marriage look undesirable whether it's due to ignorance or
just because they are not willing to put what they know to work.
Whatever the case, please know that no matter what, God's intentions
concerning marriage are not faulty! Don't use the experiences of others
to determine yours. Learn from the
mistakes of others, be wise! Don't assume, don't be careless, be
spiritually alert, be prayerful, FOLLOW the leading of the Holy Spirit!
Above all, don't begin any relationship or get married consumed by
anxiety. If you are anxious, unsure, apprehensive, or uneasy about a
relationship, don't carry on. stop, think & pray! God is the God of
all peace (2 Thessalonians 3:16) so that means anything contrary to
peace in any relationship or marriage cannot be from Him!
This is what she has to say to the married ones too;
"Your marriage is to be enjoyed, not endured. You are not supposed to just go through the motions, please enjoy your spouse. How often do you spend time, I mean quality time with each other? Or are you one of those "hi, bye" couples, who walk by each other in the home? Who barely talk to each other? Who don't have meaningful conversations, who no longer eat together, check in on each other, pray together, joke together or just hang out together? That is a sign that intimacy is waning. You have to get it back by all means. Seeing husbands and wives who look more like strangers is quite disheartening. When a husband and wife become strangers living together, a loophole has been created for the devil and his cohorts to come in.
Marriage is the only platform where a man and woman can be as close as possible and be as free as possible so why don't many take advantage of it? Take the time to deliberately build your intimacy level - it's not automatic. If you have not done so in a while, put a halt to the hustle and bustle of life and sit down and talk deeply about real things that affect your relationship, your feelings, your state of mind, etc. I keep stressing it - check up on each other everyday and don't assume that all is well; no! Instead ensure all is well! Remember that assumptions will only result in one or both of you feeling frustrated. Don't become so used to each other; that is how the disintegration of many marriages begin!
Remember that marriage (according to God's design) is a partnership, not a competition. You must have the mentality of "we are in this together", "we are for each other", and "we remain a house, United". Your spouses rising is your rising, their concerns should be your concerns, and vice versa. That is how to build and maintain a formidable marriage and family. A competitive mentality or a "me, myself & I" mentality will eventually lead to the disintegration of the marriage. No team with a divided mindset ever wins. Be wise!
This is what she has to say to the married ones too;
"Your marriage is to be enjoyed, not endured. You are not supposed to just go through the motions, please enjoy your spouse. How often do you spend time, I mean quality time with each other? Or are you one of those "hi, bye" couples, who walk by each other in the home? Who barely talk to each other? Who don't have meaningful conversations, who no longer eat together, check in on each other, pray together, joke together or just hang out together? That is a sign that intimacy is waning. You have to get it back by all means. Seeing husbands and wives who look more like strangers is quite disheartening. When a husband and wife become strangers living together, a loophole has been created for the devil and his cohorts to come in.
Marriage is the only platform where a man and woman can be as close as possible and be as free as possible so why don't many take advantage of it? Take the time to deliberately build your intimacy level - it's not automatic. If you have not done so in a while, put a halt to the hustle and bustle of life and sit down and talk deeply about real things that affect your relationship, your feelings, your state of mind, etc. I keep stressing it - check up on each other everyday and don't assume that all is well; no! Instead ensure all is well! Remember that assumptions will only result in one or both of you feeling frustrated. Don't become so used to each other; that is how the disintegration of many marriages begin!
Remember that marriage (according to God's design) is a partnership, not a competition. You must have the mentality of "we are in this together", "we are for each other", and "we remain a house, United". Your spouses rising is your rising, their concerns should be your concerns, and vice versa. That is how to build and maintain a formidable marriage and family. A competitive mentality or a "me, myself & I" mentality will eventually lead to the disintegration of the marriage. No team with a divided mindset ever wins. Be wise!
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