Reasons Ladies Remain in Abusive Relationships and the Way Out.

There are more abusive relationships that we are aware of because people live pretentious lives or what Fela meant as 'smiling and suffering.' A man being abusive is not just by beating up his woman. There are worst injuries inflicted through other means of abuse which could be emotional/mental/psychological. This has driven some women to psychiatric homes,  yet they still return back to that relationship.'Have you ever felt the need to strangle a loved one until she realizes that relationship will either kill her or she'll become a killer herself?' Everyone sees how wrong she's being treated, except her. Or she does but too helpless to walk away. The question then is why?

Late Hours News Update: Border Demarcation Between Nigeria and Cameroun to be Completed in 2015.

Today's Late Hours News Headlines:
*Border Demarcation Between Nigeria and Cameroun to be Completed in 2015.
*Delta State Secondary Schools Principals Embarked on Strike
*'I was Once a Danfo Driver' - Fayose
*A Teenager Manhood Disappears After Shaking Hands with a Stranger
*Director of Defense Information; Major General Chris Olukolade Fired.
*Medical Doctors in Ghana Embarked on a Nation-wide Strike.
Enjoy reading full details of the news.

Border Demarcation Between Nigeria and Cameroun to be Completed in 2015.

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An agreement has been reached by the two heads of states; President Muhammadu Buhari and President Paul Biya on Thursday to ensure the completion of the border demarcation between the two countries by working hand in hand. This was disclosed in a statement released by the Special Adviser to the President on media and publicity.

He also stated that both presidents are impressed with the progress of the work under the supervision of the United Nations.

Snap Out of it: 'Do Dead Men Cry?'

Life challenges are treacherous! they make you believe that's what your existence is all about; conquering challenges. But what you truly are, is; a CHALLENGE to life. Note;  you're the challenge not what life presents to you because if the devil who's the 'father of all treacherousness' is to have his way you'll be 6feet under the ground. So, the fact that you're alive is a great challenge. Have you ever seen a champion lying on the floor, of course not! He's rises with his hands raised up above his head while people cheer. Even when he's too weak to do that, someone/the coach will give assistance for all to see and know the champion.

Early Hour News: Refineries in Nigeria Commenced Petroleum Production

- According to the Nigerian National Petroleum Cooperation (NNPC); the refineries in Warri and Port-Harcourt have commenced production of petroleum after undergoing 9months rehabilitation conducted by some in house engineers.

Wallow in Pain or Trust God in the Dark - Bob Gass

 In life; anybody can be faithful in good times, but standing 'by night in the house of the Lord' takes real commitment. 

A hundred years ago Germany's exclusive textile mills had special rooms dedicated to spinning the world's finest lace. Each room was dark, except for the light falling from a small window onto the weaver's work. That's because lace is more beautiful when the weaver is in darkness and his work is in the light. Usually God's purposes are revealed and His power displayed, in our darkest experiences when like Gideon you ask; 'if the Lord is with me, why has this.... happened?' When there seems to be no rhyme or reason, God's promises is " I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the Lord... who calls you by name (Isaiah 45:3).

Difference Between Being Single at Twenties and at Thirties or Above.

Hmm! still want us to lean more on the light weight side before we bring back the heavy weight for the day. Well, you may not absolutely agree with me but I've tried to view the different perspectives of single ladies when they're in their twenties, more like early twenties though and when they get to thirties. Though, the pressure being mounted on ladies today is even promoting marriages at late teen and early twenties.

Fastest and Easiest Way to Get Rid of 'Pot Belle.'

Hmm! We've been on the heavy weight (talked much on serious issues) here for a while now, so, let's shed some of the weight off. Meaning; this post may not be exactly how you expect it to be hehehe!

Protruding stomach, popularly known as 'pot belle' is a legacy of African men and I can't tell if it's as a result of the much consumption of; fufu, akpu, eba, amala, opa...... etc. Though, there has also been insinuations that it has to do with much consumption of alcohol (beer). Sometimes, when some people see a man with such stomach, an argument about 'that guy dey bottle (takes much bottles of alchol)' ensued . As much as some of them probably tried to get rid of the pot in the belle, there isn't much progress. I guess, they're just too lazy to withstand the vigorous exercise Lol!

How the Greatest Consultant Fashioned George Washington's Life; The First American President.

The dream of George Washington was to join the Navy, but his mother, who was a widow raising her children alone, didn't like the idea. And trying to be brave, she agreed to let him follow his dream. The day he was to sail, she hugged him and said goodbye. And just before his departure, her emotion got hold of her and she started weeping uncontrollably. She has been through so much pain, raising her children all alone, she just couldn't endure letting go her son. George must not get on the ship. She needs him to stay back, be strong in helping the rest of them. As much as the young boy smartly dressed up to embark on such great journey, desperately wanted to go after his dreams, he chosed to stay back. Especially if it means adding to his mother's grief. Reluctantly, he returned his uniform and ordered his belongings to be ashore.

Knowing When Suicide Becomes a Choice.

      I have read and listened to news about suicide cases, and I can't help but hurt over each story. People, one expects to have reasons to live, to add or already adding meaning to others lives end up as suicide victims and one can't help but ask; How could they be so selfish? didn't they think of the grief/guilt that their loved ones will have to deal with? the unending/unanswered questions they'll ask and be asked by others? the shame, remorse of not being there and the why? why? why?......

Today's Gentleman: What Women Expect You to be and What You Should Really Turn Out to be.

Today's gentleman privileged to be civilized but emotionally insensitive. As much as this does not apply to everyone of them, its difficult not to notice how some seems to carry themselves like modern day King of Babylon, that thinks he's bigger than God. Ughrrr! Don't grind your teeth just yet, please read what I have to write about what women expects today's gentleman to be

Why an Igbo Man Will Never Choose to go to War Again.

Okay! I had a good laugh and a serious thought over the conversation that ensued in the cab I was riding in, on my way from work. My fellow passengers talked non-stop about the appalling state of our nation; from terrible state of power supply to poor governmental leadership, funds thievery, lack of security and finally Biafra.

Memories Bond With Time.

It came too fast
A rush from the past
That seems not to last
Like a lightening flash
It became a figment of memory.

What is the stress
That one can't find rest?
Casting a shadow of distress
As it speed past the crest
Is a man's hope to still the time.

Why You Don't Need to go Searching for God Anymore!

We all search for God through different medium but the Christian life is a redemptive opportunity to be voraciously electrified with the in-dwelling of God's presence, bringing to the fulfillment the scripture 'where two or three are gathered together in my name, There, I am in the midst of them.'  Afterall, you don't need to go searching for your parents to provide your needs when you live with them. So, is our father in heaven;  who is ever faithful and just in granting the desires of His children.

Ways to Know if We've Got Thrash in Our Relationships.

Les Parrot in his book " High Maintenance relationship" offers us ways to know whether someone is a plus or minus in our lives:

CHIC: He Threw me Out of his House After Two Children. But the Lord Blessed me with a Job Worth Hundreds of Thousand as Salary. Now he Wants me Back With Speed.

Comic Heart Issues Compilation (CHIC) of the day: Lol! at remote in hand and fast forwarding motion of the story.  'And they say money can't buy love.' I hope you enjoy reading today's story.

Today's Single Woman: What Men Expect From You and What You Should Give in Return - 1

Today's single woman privileged to be civilized but morally questionable. And this has given our men and the society the upper hand to shove down her throat their expectations. Of course! I agree with you, I can't say that about everyone but then, if you know of a thing going wrong and don't say or do nothing about it;  its also questionable. In this situation, every woman is a victim of a crime committed against herself in one way or the other. So, what do men expects from today’s single woman and what should she give in return?

Love Questionable Stand

How boastful are you of love?
Is there substance to the words
Confidence as high as a mountain?
Oh! the decisive fierce heart beat
Comforting as a cool night breeze
In the mind, all thoughts freeze.

The Clash and Changes From the Lady You Were to the Woman You've Become.

Okay! So, I've heard so much about the sacrifices ladies have to make after marriage, that I'm beginning to wonder if I have to block my ears with wax when next one of my female folks comes wining? Lol! And of argument that married women are more indecently dressed these days than the single ladies. You know about the usual; the need to keep looking good for the man,  restriction of movement/lack of freedom to come and go as thou pleaseth, the well maintained shaped being filled with water and fat after child birth, of course, it'll take a lot of discipline to have a semblance of what it used to be. And the mess being created on daily if not hourly basis by the children, the male folks not appreciative enough etc in the voice of my college days teachers.

Your Dream; A Promise You Make to Yourself.

Langston Hughes the famous American poet once said “Hold on to your dreams because if dreams die, life is a broken wing that can no longer fly." In Nigeria it is hard to dream, like the only dream we are allowed to have is the one we have when we close our eyes to sleep at night. From the day you are birthed, you hear people tell you about stuffs that aren’t possible and how it can never be done! So for fear of being heartbroken we settle for less of what we were destined to be, “pick a man now because soon your time would pass!" Then my sisters settle for someone who isn’t their dream man, “you can’t get that dream job o, many people have tried and failed!" We then settled for jobs we know  are beneath us and bosses who do not know our worth and quite frankly never will.

The Man! His Ministry and His Mentor.

To every man God has assigned an assignment! Now! I’m talking strictly of the male folks and not the entire human race. So, ‘if you're thinking what a man can do, a woman can do better’ then you just may miss the line of thought. A man with no assignment is the most dangerous man you can ever come across. He drinks because everyone drinks,  he gets married because everyone is doing so! Well, back to the gentlemen knowing their well defined purpose in life and the steps of whom, they should follow. A quick check with the first man on earth (Adam). I believe the fear he must had felt in his heart when the Maker assigned the duty of naming every created creature on earth was gripping. He must have doubted and wondered if he will not be  naming an animal twice or giving the same name to two different animals/plants. Maybe faint in heart but strong in the might and knowledge of His maker taking real time to make these creatures.

I was Busy Praying to be Married to him While he was Walking Down the Aisle With Another Woman. Today! He Gets Angry Whenever he Sees me, Blaming me for his Unhappiness in Marriage.

Okay! I thought this story weird and our men should learn to actually realise that ladies are to be help-meet and not the bread winner.

How bright can a green light be? Should it be blinding before guys notice it? Was the question I asked myself, when I got the information that the man I’ve being fasting and praying to be married to is going to marry someone else. It hurts more because we had become a bit close to being friends. Yeah! But I had too many personal issues I was dealing with to give my best at that time. Because he too was having his own challenges financially. Funny how some men expect a working lady to split or probably foot the bills in a relationship. We met at the time when I was picking myself up from a series of bad relationships I had been involved in.

Snap Out of it: Hit the Delete Button.

Imagine living in a society where adulterers wear a scarlet letter and thieves  wear a ball and chain. Imagine being identified only by your past."They probably deserve it," you say. Really? Jesus said if you look at a member of the opposite sex with lust in your eyes, you've committed adultery in your heart (Matthew 5:28). Ouch! Then he went on to say that the standard of judgement you impose on others, is the standard by which you'll be judged (Matthew 7:1-2). can you live with that? Now, God's not soft on sin. His love won't let you off. "The Lord disciplines those he loves" (Hebrews 12:6). But His love won't let you go (Romans 8:38-39).

What Happens When You Choose not to be Your Own Person?

Okay so I was on my own on Saturday, minding my own business in the salon where I went to fix my hair and I met this really friendly girl and we chatted for a bit and I went back to minding my own business.  About an hour later a friend of hers came by and then I just couldn’t help but notice how she criticized everything this girl did, she started by saying “what type of hairstyle is this?” she criticized her friend based on her own standards, I couldn’t help but notice how she ended every statement with “like my own.” Please where can I ‘charge’ my I-Phone?” She asked speaking a little too loud; obviously, she wanted us to know about her little gadget. After awhile, she started been generous with her criticism as every hair in the salon wasn’t up to her standard, obviously ‘poor township’ folks like us knew nothing about fashion.

Reasons a Lady Will Pray for a God Fearing Man.

Quick question before the post from a concerned gentleman: "Are you looking for a God fearing man because you want to grow in Christ with him or you just want a dude that won't cheat on you?"