The Dilemma of Being Single at 30 Years and Above.

In all of our previous weeks series on the dilemma of being single at 30 years and above, we've looked at this issue from both the ladies and gentlemen angle. Today: I'd like to restrict it to the ladies only. It's a special post. We will focus on those special thoughts some single ladies have or likely
to have, when they get to encounter this phase of life.

Thoughts of a Single Lady at 30 and Above.
- I just need a man that will let me answer his name. Then I'd get to live and breath freely in the society, gain some respect, even if it means paying the bills and running the home. For some it doesn't matter if they are wife number 1,2,3 etc.
- No more sex. Because if sex didn't or couldn't get me a man when young and fresh. It definitely won't be what will get me one now. And there are the ones thinking the opposite; Sleep with him at the appropriate time and hook him down with 9months collateral. He can pay later.
- I don't have to love him before getting married to him. After all, there's a word called "Compromise" and the saying "don't marry who you love but love who you marry."
- Every man that comes my way is a potential husband material, until proven otherwise.
- I need to spend less time with married friends because, some knows how to remind you of your single state and help to build inferiority complex.

Its alright to think these thoughts or feel this way sometimes, its definitely an evidence your mind/heart are at work. But its very wrong to subject yourself to those thoughts. It'll only lead to losing your identity in life. Yes! Out of self pity, you may end up getting married for all the wrong reasons in the world and that will only lead to disaster. Whatever the future holds, gather today's experience as a single lady to build a happy home when the married lady emerges, hopefully. All in all, don't loose your grip. Life is worth living, no matter the falsehood of one's thoughts, cheers!